This Is What You Find When Browsing Others.....

I was browsing a friend's blog when I came across this:

These are guidelines that I try to use to live my life:

Our lives are only minuscule if we live for ourselves; our lives become grandiose when we live for others.

No one is ever wrong unless they feel they are right. They are even more wrong when they feel others must believe the same.

Contemplate.

Sympathy and empathy are society’s most powerful tools.

Respect what you have. Enjoy what you’re doing.

Earth is our home… and we are messy children.

Speak your mind.

When you look at another person, it is not someone else that you are seeing. It is a reflection of another aspect of yourself.

Right or wrong does not matter, it’s learning you could do it different.

Live with honesty

The surest way of hurting yourself is through hurting others.

When someone shares a secret with you and it hurts you, don’t take your anger out on them. Instead, imagine how hard it would be for you to be honest and how you would hope the other person would act. The idea inside a secret will exist whether you know of it’s existence or not. I will always rejoice when honesty is revealed regardless of how jagged the truth is.


I happen to disagree with most of these. Why? This is what I do.


"Our lives are only minuscule if we live for ourselves; our lives become grandiose when we live for others."

I find this horribly wrong. You should always live for yourself first. Otherwise you will never be happy as you are always pleasing others. You will compromise yourself for others, and nothing ever comes good from that.



"No one is ever wrong unless they feel they are right. They are even more wrong when they feel others must believe the same. "

If you do not feel you are right, then you feel you are wrong. If you always feel you are wrong, then how do you know which direction to go? I guess if you are living for others, you just follow them. This is beginning to sound like a manual for the "slackers" and "tag-alongs"....

"contemplate"

I agree. This is good. But you can't always do this. Sometimes you have to make hasty decisions. Sometimes it is required. I highly doubt when your boss ask you a question in a board meeting and you sit there with this look on you face of being completely "blank", he is going to be okay with you "contemplating".


"Speak your mind. "

I agree fully. This is be the 11th Commandment.



"When you look at another person, it is not someone else that you are seeing. It is a reflection of another aspect of yourself"

This annoys me. Not because it is not true. No, because it is. When Someone "bothers" me, or I dislike them, the first thing I do is compare them to myself. It's not a choice, it's a reaction. It's what my mind does automatically. Then I realize, the annoyance in this person is an annoyance I have with myself. I hate that because it makes it hard for me to criticize....



So I guess the whole thing isn't completely horrible. But those core things bother me. Especially the starting statement. But when comparing this to my friend, who happens to be my ex, it makes complete sense as to who he is. Which causes more confusion to why I spent a year and a half on him....